Wow! This is an amazing video that defines each emotion (fear, anger, etc.) and explains what it is telling you. I’ve been working on feeling my emotions, so I’m some ways, this is a step past where I am focused right now, but it seems like a really useful map once I’ve identified what I’m…
I’m listening to “All There Is” by Anderson Cooper and there is an episode with Whoopi Goldberg. She is talking about when her mom died and how she started to feel like she was withdrawing to an unhealthy level and she said that she knew she was in trouble because: Nobody wants this for you.…
It’s an interesting thought/feeling to have… In order to be safe, I need my dad to be safe, and in order for him to be safe, I need to be unsafe. It sounds non-sensical, doesn’t it? How can this be logically true? Well, in pure logic terms, it doesn’t work. Ah, it’s funny because dad…
I’ve been working through the process of living with the legacy of trauma. The overwhelming, unbearable, and unbelievable thoughts and feelings. For a long time, I tried to push them away so they wouldn’t hurt me. And it worked for a good long while. Then one day, I found that pushing those feelings away was…
…and continues to save it. It was a place to put my grief when it wasn’t shared in my family of origin. In it, I could see a whole show about people who were living difficult lives, and I could see myself in their emotional lives. In many ways, my life was so much easier…
I’m having a love/hate relationship with these substack articles. They keep hitting the nail on the head. It’s hard to believe that someone who doesn’t even know me can describe my experience so much more vividly then those who I grew up with. https://open.substack.com/pub/mytherapist/p/why-getting-healthier-can-make-you?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=19bxf3
Oof. It’s hard when an article hits the nail right on the head. I’m so glad to have a few people in my life that make me feel less alone with my current experience of childhood trauma. It was a long journey to find them and to trust them. https://open.substack.com/pub/mytherapist/p/the-second-betrayal-the-hidden-factor?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=19bxf3
This is a really interesting article that talks about how two people can experience two sides of the same relationship and be experiencing it in opposite ways, which can be seen in brain scans. https://open.substack.com/pub/verahartmdphd/p/the-asymmetry-of-pain-why-the-narcissist?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=19bxf3
This is a really interesting video that explains some a method to interact with people in a way that prioritizes learning about their perspective if there is a difference of opinion. This enables and supports the connection, and allows for the different opinions to coexist. https://www.instagram.com/reel/DRXjJwdDwIb/?igsh=NnI1YjdzMW9xenR4
Posting here for my future self to reference. A reminder that sometimes it’s anxiety about anxiety, which can lead to me pushing away my current (anxious) self. And maybe, the answer is holding the anxiety closely and kindly. Basically giving it a hug. Hopefully this can help remind me now, and in the future, to…