This is a really interesting video that explains some a method to interact with people in a way that prioritizes learning about their perspective if there is a difference of opinion. This enables and supports the connection, and allows for the different opinions to coexist. https://www.instagram.com/reel/DRXjJwdDwIb/?igsh=NnI1YjdzMW9xenR4
Posting here for my future self to reference. A reminder that sometimes it’s anxiety about anxiety, which can lead to me pushing away my current (anxious) self. And maybe, the answer is holding the anxiety closely and kindly. Basically giving it a hug. Hopefully this can help remind me now, and in the future, to…
I was never officially the ‘identified patient’ in my family of origin, but it’s interesting to read about this experience because it matches my sense of being the emotionally sensitive one. The one who can’t ignore the dysfunction. The one who can’t function in the dysfunctional family system, but can function well when I’m outside…
I recently watched this short by Aimie Apigian and she talked about the three characteristics in her definition of trauma. Trauma is these three things: She talks about how this makes it hard to process trauma, and that resonates with me because if it’s unbelievable, then that’s one layer, if it’s unbearable, that’s another layer,…
Inspired by Patricia W’s post here: https://substack.com/@consciouslyy/note/c-153802460 She says, “What makes someone unsafe is their unwillingness to actually do the work to change.” I agree. That is what I have found has made me feel most unsafe in my life.
Inspired by Patrick Teahan’s video below… Self worth – protecting your inner child I’m protecting my inner child from your twisted way of relating to your son – only by being superior. You don’t know me, and I’m protecting my inner child from the doubt that you installed and benefited from. Rebuild a sense of…
You know you can’t keep calling it love if it only exists when you’re silent and disassociated. You can’t keep calling it loyalty if the price you pay is self-abandonment.
Today’s article, from Rebecca C Mandeville… https://open.substack.com/pub/familyscapegoathealing/p/what-fsa-adult-survivors-need-to?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=19bxf3 My favorite quote from it is: By accepting the extraordinarily painful reality of what has happened to you, you will be better equipped to discern who genuinely wants to hear your truth, and who does not want to hear it because it is inconvenient, overwhelming, or threatening.