I recently watched this short by Aimie Apigian and she talked about the three characteristics in her definition of trauma. Trauma is these three things:

• Overwhelming
• Unbelievable
• Unbearable

She talks about how this makes it hard to process trauma, and that resonates with me because if it’s unbelievable, then that’s one layer, if it’s unbearable, that’s another layer, and if it’s overwhelming, it’s not something that makes sense to move towards in order to process it and heal it.