Category: Emotional Survival Skills


  • Oh boy. Do I? Yes. I gaslight my “inner knowing.” Far more often than I would like to admit. First, let me explain what I mean by this phrase. As I grew up, as we all grow up, we have an “inner knowing” that points us in a direction. This direction may lead us to…

  • Ed. Note: This article may bring up difficult feelings. If you are in crisis, please get support at https://988lifeline.org/. I’ve been sitting a lot with my grief recently. I’ve been having trouble identifying the exact source of it, so I just keep gently asking myself, “where is this coming from?” It has taken years to…

  • I don’t have a better title for this article than the one that inspired it. I’m also not sure I have a lot to say beyond the article, except that this is my favorite line from it: “living is always ceasing to be yourself and becoming something else” https://philosophybear.substack.com/p/how-i-would-like-to-live

  • Because it’s fun Yesterday, I was talking with my son about trampolining, and I was saying how I was glad he was jumping on the trampoline to get exercise, and then he said, “And because it’s fun.” At the time, I thought nothing of it. This morning, it landed in me, and it landed harder…

  • I’m finding myself having a different perspective on abundance recently. I used to think it was abundance of that which we desired: good feelings, that shiny new toy, whatever external item brought us joy or happiness. I’m beginning to realize that I have abundance of life. Not always happy (though not always sad), but rather…

  • It resonates remarkably well with my experience. I may write more about it later, but for now, I’ll just leave it here for reference. https://open.substack.com/pub/suzybliss997/p/soul-murder-the-clinical-name-for

  • Inspiration from Marigolds I’ve been watching a lot of videos from Joe Hudson and Art of Accomplishment recently. They have all been really compelling. In this video, one of the things he talks about is sharing songs with his daughters. There is one moment when he name drops a song called Marigolds, and how he…

  • Dad, Your arrest upended my life. I nearly didn’t make it past that part of my life because of how tightly I was attached to you, and how much difficulty I had adjusting to the new reality of your arrest, your crimes, and your mental health diagnosis. When I had to let go of my…

  • Growing up, I learned that I needed to be superhuman. I needed to be omniscient, needed to be ahead of my dad, predicting what was going to happen so I could be ahead of him. I also learned that he needed his computers to work all the time. Though he built them and upgraded the…

  • Wow! This is an amazing video that defines each emotion (fear, anger, etc.) and explains what it is telling you. I’ve been working on feeling my emotions, so I’m some ways, this is a step past where I am focused right now, but it seems like a really useful map once I’ve identified what I’m…